Coby's health blog

Have you ever seen “Everybody loves Raymond”?. a Quite interesting movie. on that movie, mother and father in law always trying to across the line, always make judgment, and never being able to respect any of the boundaries to their child’s affair.

Marriage experts says that there actually exist type – a bad type one – of parents or family members who always want their child or brothers\sisters stays under their control and try to make sure of it. There’s a concious or unconcious feeling that their role as a parents or brother\sister have been competed or eliminated by other person presence. But they tends not realize or acknowledged it. There’s kind of in-laws that usually do not respect their child’s decisions as an adult and may not even like their child’s choice or existence of spouse. This happens often between the mother-in-Law or sister in law and the wife.

A marriage expert define toxic peoples in to different types, and the most “dangerous” one is called the needy Failure. The type of this person is quite smart – in a deceive way of course-, well balanced and seems to has a good personality, so everyone not very closer to this people will impressed. But, behind that, unfortunately this person can not stand for being nosy or interfering, even they doing it in “silent” way. They felt they know what best and what should be or not to be. This kind of person usually not in relationship person, so they not busy enough to take care his/her own business. Their loneliness and illness to get attention makes them so eager to interfering or critics other’s people business. They tends to envious on something that they can not achieved in their life. This kind of toxic person also has an even darker side than we might think. They absolutely never sympathetic  to your problems, they tends to feel like that a new comer in their family life is nothing than an obstacle.

Toxic In-Laws surely should be cannot destroy a stable relationship. A good and solid marriage will not fall down under interfering and territorial games of in-laws. But, unfortunately, most new marriages are not that strong and at some degree, a relationship surely will experience some kind of problem.

Drama seeking in laws to gossip or interfering -may you’re not realize or not- it does exist. If you don’t make a consensus with your spouse, your relationships are never be healthy. Not healthy for your over all health, and particularly for your mental health. Its because mental health will affects your general health. Emotionally disturbance does will lead you to emotional diseases, and its not good, not only for your marriage but also for your personal.