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I have wrote in my early article that facebook  (FB) have positive sides, that is promotes and  improving your good mood.  Like technologies, it can be very useful to makes something more fast, simple and easier, but it can turns to bad effects when we can not use it wisely.  So does social media / social networking such Facebook.  Facebook can be a fun way for us to interacting with peoples, but in the other hand it can be “dangerous” too.  Not  intended to treat facebook as a scapegoat that can affect negatively, but what i meant is that facebook can be “harmful” when people use it unwisely.  I interested to talk about the other side of this social networking, based my own experienced.  I got a silly question from one of my colleague : It is acceptable when to change my facebook identity and relationship status?..like age, relationship status etc. Its okey if i make another FB account (faked one) to promote my image in front of my FB friends?.

For a moment, i suggested that a normal things, especially if you just fake your age..yea, i mean its kind relatively tolarable if you want to looks younger than your original age. But, make another account (faked one) to promotes his image?..thats quite strange.  Pretend this fakes account as  his girl friend?. thats kind of weird.  And what more “scaring”, he’s using his faked count to send comments to his original FB account, like  : “you’re the most handsome guy i ever met”, “you’re the smartest one”, “you’re so amazing”, “I adore you” etc.  O’gosh, didn’t mean for being rude, but  i think it was sick., mentally. I mean, mental-illness doen’t always related with crazy or insane, right?.  I think it was unhealthy for our mental our personality.  I keep asked…its normal thing or…or i’m being exaggerated or what.

Personally i wouldn’t do that. I told him that you could do anything if you really wanted to and makes you confort, but it will not achieve solution for ever. His friends probably will question about it, someday or somehow or they’ll get curious too.  If they weren’t too, are you feel okey and convenient with this such thing?. Its just not manipulate others but mostly its manipulate your self.  Can you enjoying life like that?.  I told him, i would just leave and ignore them what ever they gonna say and judge about us.  If you can take your self the way you are, how can others?.

Maybe you always have terrible relationship , or may be you never have a real or meaningful relationship in your lifetime or what ever that is. It doesn’t mean you have to pretend and do something like that. It wouldn’t solve much. They (your friends) should not be the reason for you to do something like that.  It makes you like pathetic than great.

I just wondering how can a confident -a over confident i supposed- could do something like that?. Is he hiding something behind his over-confident behaviour?. so i have read that behind positive sides looks of  a over-confident person, there is someonewho is not happy as he seems.  From the outside, this person may seemn strong, high-self esteem, and in control. but, if you peaked inside this kind of person’s mind, there is an emptiness. Psychologist suggested there’s must be kind of lack of self esteem for certain reasons, a jelaousy, anger, lack of acceptance , weakness, or even some frustation. There’s something  he graves  for his life..

Other psychologist suggested that social media such FB, can cause dillusion perceptions such claiming / pretending  to be who you’re not to and describing your self differently. This kind lead to manipulative behaviour.

And these are some behaviour :

Pretend

Pretending not to be what we really are . Our pictures, our home, our status, a our age etc. This kind of manipulating behaviour seem normal and acceprtable, but you’re continued to go on with this, with other thing. And then you feel comfort about it. Its unhealthy.

Freaked out

We  gonna freaked ot if somebody caught our “fake undercover” , that surely not health for you mental.

faked comments, status and so on results some kind of dillusion. You become enjoy with your manipulating behaviour, you’re imagine and kind of feel thats were you, real you. The worst, if you feel convenient and enjoy it.  You probably lead to mental illness, without you realize it.

I’m not intended to jugde or something, but through what i wrote, and case what i have, we can learn something that may have benefits for us, including my self. In this imperfect world, our life doesn’t always be the way we wanted, right?. so, what do you think…

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